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The Voice That Shaped Me: 10 Things My Mother Said That Changed Everything
Growing up, my mom was our family's anchor. She juggled countless responsibilities while somehow making it all look effortless. But...
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23 hours ago2 min read
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Are You Ready to Move In Together
Considering sharing a home with your partner? This significant step requires more than just combining addresses. Here's how to determine...
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Jun 91 min read
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10 Essential Things You Need for Successful Mediation: A Participant's Guide - Part 2
Continuing on from my previous post, here are the remaining 5 things you need to consider when going into mediation.I want to share the...
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Jun 22 min read
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10 Essential Things You Need for Successful Mediation: A Participant's Guide - Part One
I often get asked about the best way to approach a mediation. As someone about to enter mediation, you might feel uncertain about what...
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May 262 min read
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Mediation in the Digital Age: Adapting to Shrinking Attention Spans
Modern dispute resolution faces a critical challenge: traditional mediation techniques were developed for a world that no longer exists....
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May 122 min read
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Avoiding the Celebrity Divorce Trap: Why Separation Doesn't Have to Take Years
No one enters marriage planning for divorce, and certainly no one wants their separation to drag on for years. Time is a resource you can...
spencermatthews1
May 52 min read
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The Four Pillars of Rock-Solid Trust
When I'm talking with my male divorce and separation coaching clients, one of the common thing that comes up is "trust in relationships,"...
spencermatthews1
Apr 282 min read
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Building Lasting Relationships: Six Essential Practices
In a world filled with distractions, nurturing meaningful connections requires intention and practice. Here are six powerful ways to...
spencermatthews1
Apr 142 min read
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Hidden Dangers of Social Media Venting and Digital Snooping During Separation
In the emotional turbulence of separation and divorce, social media can feel like a convenient outlet for frustration and a window into...
spencermatthews1
Apr 72 min read
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Healing and Moving On: Setting Boundaries and Seeking Help
In the final post from this series, we are looking forward. Healing from a toxic relationship requires time, self-reflection, and setting...
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Mar 311 min read
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Toxic vs. Abusive Relationships: Key Differences and Warning Signs
Continuing the discussion on toxic relationships, in part two lets look at the differences between toxic and abusive. While toxic and...
spencermatthews1
Mar 241 min read
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Recognising Toxic Relationships: Key Characteristics
Over the next three weeks I'm going to explore toxic relationships. For the first blog, let's cover some key characteristics. Toxic...
spencermatthews1
Mar 171 min read
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4 Tips to Build Everyday Trust in Relationships
Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship. It’s not just about rebuilding after a betrayal or breach, but about creating a solid...
spencermatthews1
Mar 101 min read
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Emotions during Mediation
Mediation is not just a structured process for resolving disputes; it is also an emotional journey for the parties involved. Emotions...
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Mar 32 min read
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Learn how to thrive in a second or third partnership
For many people, coming out of a tough first (or second) partnership can actually make them more prepared for a successful second...
spencermatthews1
Feb 243 min read
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Two simple rules
There are two simple rules: You get better at what you practice. Everything is practice. Look around and you may be surprised by what...
spencermatthews1
Feb 171 min read
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The curse of the expert?
It’s real. One of the things that I have had to learn on my journey from salaried police officer to self-employed divorce and separation...
spencermatthews1
Feb 101 min read
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What Happens if One Partner Dies During Separation?
Separation can already be a difficult, emotional time, but what if one partner dies while you’re in the middle of it? It’s a scenario...
spencermatthews1
Feb 33 min read
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How can a Divorce Coach help me?
You wake up at 2:00 AM, feeling overwhelmed and a bit lost, thinking about the future. The uncertainty is gnawing at you, and it feels...
spencermatthews1
Jan 285 min read
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Why a divorce coach?
Divorce coaches are becoming more prevalent in New Zealand, offering practical support on co-parenting, financial matters before the...
spencermatthews1
Jan 202 min read
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