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spencermatthews1
Dec 16, 20242 min read
Workplace conflicts are inevitable
Workplace conflicts are inevitable, but understanding the psychological underpinnings can transform how we manage and resolve them. The...
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spencermatthews1
Dec 12, 20242 min read
Got an extrovert in your life? Sharing your house with an introvert?
While I'n not big on labels, sometimes they are a useful shorthand for understanding others. if you find your partner is opposite to you,...
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spencermatthews1
Dec 3, 20244 min read
Getting “back out there”
It can be very hard to get back into the dating world after a breakup or divorce. It can be daunting and scary, and some people give up...
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spencermatthews1
Nov 28, 20243 min read
What are the benefits of workplace mediation?
In today’s dynamic and interconnected workplaces conflicts are inevitable. Whether arising from cultural differences, communication...
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spencermatthews1
Nov 20, 20242 min read
Practical ways to reduce your legal fees during separation
I thought some practical insights might be useful as while separation is emotionally demanding, it does not have to drain your bank...
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spencermatthews1
Nov 5, 20241 min read
Feeling lost and unsure?
Thinking about separation, ending your relationship , or going ahead with a a divorce? Feeling lost and unsure of where to start,...
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spencermatthews1
Oct 11, 20242 min read
The healing power of hugs
In a world where stress and isolation can often dominate our daily lives, the simple act of hugging emerges as a powerful antidote. Not...
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spencermatthews1
Sep 23, 20241 min read
I created a tool...
Sometimes you can't get what you want off the shelf. I love boats and being on the water, but the flip-side is maintance. On older boats...
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spencermatthews1
Aug 19, 20241 min read
Choosing my ancestors
It was a comment on the radio today that got me thinking about how we either have our lives chosen for us, or we get to choose our own...
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spencermatthews1
Aug 12, 20241 min read
Branches
I got sent the quote commonly called the 'The Fig Tree' by Sylvia Plath (from The Bell Jar) last week. I readily admit that when I think...
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spencermatthews1
Aug 8, 20241 min read
The Olympics - new discoveries every four years
I'm always intrigued when the Olympic Games rolls around every 4 years. The increased interest in otherwise obscure sporting categories...
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spencermatthews1
Jul 29, 20242 min read
Unburdened?
I went on a pilgrimage last year. It was probably both the end and the begininng of a significant period of change in my life. One of the...
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spencermatthews1
Jul 22, 20241 min read
Deep water
I went to see the documentary 'Ice Maiden' last week. It's the story of Lisa Blair https://lisablairsailstheworld.com/ and focuses on her...
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spencermatthews1
Jul 8, 20241 min read
Price comes last.
Over the past 11 years I have watched my neighbours come and go in the apartment building where I live. One thing that I have been...
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spencermatthews1
Jul 2, 20241 min read
Direct your energy
Have been in semi-isolation for a couple of weeks delivering a yacht. Gave me a good opportunity to ponder, and then received these...
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spencermatthews1
Jun 14, 20242 min read
Think before the handcuffs come out
As a ‘street cop’ it always amazed me how some people would talk themselves into a situation where they ended up getting arrested,...
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spencermatthews1
Jun 13, 20241 min read
You can cut all the flowers
Recently I watched from my window the leaves turn golden and fall from the trees. It reminded me that even through we might feel alone at...
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spencermatthews1
Apr 26, 20242 min read
The purposeful apology
The purpose of an apology is not to justify yourself. It is not what you want to say. It is about what the listener needs to hear. The...
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spencermatthews1
Sep 18, 20231 min read
Stretching the mind
Had a great opportunity over the weekend to see the way that we can learn new skills through visualisation. One of my volunteer roles...
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spencermatthews1
Sep 11, 20232 min read
The Conflict Spiral
As a police supervisor, I tried not to get directly involved in 'street negotiations' with people in crisis, but observed, strategised...
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