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Why We Get Stuck in the Cycle
Following on from last weeks blog, in part two lets explore the psychology behind both perspectives in the dynamic To break free from the...
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Aug 4, 20252 min read


When Simple Requests Turn Into Relationship Friction
This is Part One of a series discussing how simple requests can be a major sign of relationship breakdown. Come back over the coming...
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Jul 28, 20252 min read


Using mediation in elder care decisions - part two
Carrying on from last weeks intitial descussion on making care decisions, this is a outline of how mediation occurs. 1. Focus on...
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Jul 21, 20254 min read


Mediating on care arrangements - Part One
INTRODUCTION Few topics in family mediation have become as emotionally charged as care arrangements for aging parents. As adult children...
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Jul 14, 20254 min read


The dishes conversation
You're sitting at dinner with your partner, and they mention they forgot to pick up milk at the store. What starts as a simple statement...
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Jul 7, 20252 min read


The Complexity Paradox
Please indulge me - I'm writing a book and trying out a few styles to see what 'sticks'. If you like this, please contact me and let me...
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Jun 30, 20252 min read


Building Trust in Relationship
Can I trust you to be there when I'm upset? Can I trust you to choose me over others? Can I trust you to respect me? These were all...
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Jun 23, 20252 min read


The Voice That Shaped Me: 10 Things My Mother Said That Changed Everything
Growing up, my mom was our family's anchor. She juggled countless responsibilities while somehow making it all look effortless. But...
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Jun 16, 20252 min read


Are You Ready to Move In Together
Considering sharing a home with your partner? This significant step requires more than just combining addresses. Here's how to determine...
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Jun 9, 20251 min read


10 Essential Things You Need for Successful Mediation: A Participant's Guide - Part 2
Continuing on from my previous post, here are the remaining 5 things you need to consider when going into mediation.I want to share the...
spencermatthews1
Jun 2, 20252 min read


10 Essential Things You Need for Successful Mediation: A Participant's Guide - Part One
I often get asked about the best way to approach a mediation. As someone about to enter mediation, you might feel uncertain about what...
spencermatthews1
May 26, 20252 min read


Mediation in the Digital Age: Adapting to Shrinking Attention Spans
Modern dispute resolution faces a critical challenge: traditional mediation techniques were developed for a world that no longer exists....
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May 12, 20252 min read


Avoiding the Celebrity Divorce Trap: Why Separation Doesn't Have to Take Years
No one enters marriage planning for divorce, and certainly no one wants their separation to drag on for years. Time is a resource you can...
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May 5, 20252 min read


The Four Pillars of Rock-Solid Trust
When I'm talking with my male divorce and separation coaching clients, one of the common thing that comes up is "trust in relationships,"...
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Apr 28, 20252 min read


Building Lasting Relationships: Six Essential Practices
In a world filled with distractions, nurturing meaningful connections requires intention and practice. Here are six powerful ways to...
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Apr 14, 20252 min read


Hidden Dangers of Social Media Venting and Digital Snooping During Separation
In the emotional turbulence of separation and divorce, social media can feel like a convenient outlet for frustration and a window into...
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Apr 7, 20252 min read


Healing and Moving On: Setting Boundaries and Seeking Help
In the final post from this series, we are looking forward. Healing from a toxic relationship requires time, self-reflection, and setting...
spencermatthews1
Mar 31, 20251 min read


Toxic vs. Abusive Relationships: Key Differences and Warning Signs
Continuing the discussion on toxic relationships, in part two lets look at the differences between toxic and abusive. While toxic and...
spencermatthews1
Mar 24, 20251 min read


Recognising Toxic Relationships: Key Characteristics
Over the next three weeks I'm going to explore toxic relationships. For the first blog, let's cover some key characteristics. Toxic...
spencermatthews1
Mar 17, 20251 min read


4 Tips to Build Everyday Trust in Relationships
Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship. It’s not just about rebuilding after a betrayal or breach, but about creating a solid...
spencermatthews1
Mar 10, 20251 min read
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